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Living With Grief

Posted by Debby Franklin on Nov 15, 2016 2:03:43 PM

Ronda Bonfanti.jpgEasy Living Services, Inc. is proud to partner with Ronda Bonfanti, a Certified Grief Recovery Specialist. Ronda enjoys helping people discover a clear and deep understanding of how sadness has affected their life and learn a model of completion to be used moving forward when new losses arise.  Ronda strongly feels that "grief does not have to take over your life, recovery from any loss is possible."  Ronda was inspired to become a specialist after many years of heartache that she personally experienced.  Here is important information that Ronda wants those who are greiving to know.

Aside from limited discussions about death and divorce, grief was never a topic I was ever introduced to growing up.  And even when we did have these fringed conversations, they were often only met with, "time heals all wounds" from my elders, rather than an engagement about how those life events were affecting me.  With those four words being my only real sense of direction, I prayed for time to pass and the next year to arrive quickly; I did everything I could think of to numb my pain and wait for Father Time to come to my rescue.

How we learn to cope with grief will greatly affect our health and well-being, and unresolved grief is accumulative over our lifetime.  Each new and unresolved loss continues building a "soul reservoir," threatening to buckle, split at the seams, and sweep us wildly away with no chance of keeping our head above the flood waters.  In a society where we are uncomfortable talking about sadness and loss, we often turn to secret and unhealthy coping mechanisms instead, relying on food, alcohol, and drugs to find personal relief.  We find the same thing happening to children trying to deal with their emotions - self-destructing because they do not know how to process what they are feeling in a healthy manner.

Grief is the normal reaction to a significant emotional loss.  While death and divorce are our most common producers of grief, there are over 40 life events that can produce symptoms of grief.  Grief is often misdiagnosed as Clinical Depression due to the similarity of symptoms;  lack of attention, focus, or motivation; change in appetite; trouble sleeping or sleeping too much; fatigue or lack of energy; and mood changes.  Grief in the work place results in diminished productivity.  It can also be linked to an increase in on-the-job accidents and injuries.

The pain that is felt from loss is the dark emotion that can cripple us; drive us to places we have never been before.  Once we have arrived at that new, hidden, dark place, how do we return?  Identifying those unrealized hopes, dreams and expectations that have produced our greiving need to be actively reconciled...not just subdued and ignored while we wait for time to pass.

The Grief Recovery Method is an 8-week program that can help identify and complete all losses from your past.  For me, it was processing that my father was an alcoholic.  I needed more than just giving it time; I needed to grieve the loss of a normal childhood.  I needed to complete my relationship with my father through action-oriented steps to find closure and peace.  This program can help create healthier relationships in your life. Patterns of behavior will be revealed and you will learn how you may have been carrying unresolved emotions into new relationships.

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